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Je suis Charlie

~ Swisa A ~ Leave a comment

It’s 2015 already. Time flies indeed, and especially so when you are older. Before there were predictions that the world would end in 2012, but it came and it went. We are still here, but perhaps what did end is the world as we know it. Mentalities, attitudes and expectations have changed and evolved.

It’s only been a week and a half since New Years, but already the world is at odds with one another. Shootings in Paris, hostages and explosions. It’s like you’re watching an action movie when you watch the news. The only problem is that it’s real life and real people are being killed.

Je suis Charlie. If I were in Paris, I’d be out on the streets.

No matter what, no matter how angry, no matter how wronged, no matter what your motivation, there is no good reason to justify killing another human being. Even more so if that person is an innocent bystander.

Perhaps there are things I do not know and reasons beyond my understanding, but this is my take on it.

Perhaps it’s the effect of modern day life. The focus easily sways towards “me” and to my self interest. Everyone wants to be heard, to get attention, to be noticed. Perhaps to make up for a lack of self love. Everyone wants “instant gratification” as a friend of mine mentioned. Everything at the touch of a fingerprint. We spend more time in school, but less time talking and learning about life. Even less time experiencing life. We experience it online. We spend more time on social media, but less time reading or thinking. We barely have time to be alone with our thoughts. Evenings spent discussing thoughts and ideas are left to a few.

Discussions or differences of opinion are not tolerated. If you think otherwise, you are wrong. You aren’t as good as I am. I know, so think like me.

It’s a sad world indeed.

I have a wish this year and it’s a simple one. I wish that people would stop, take a breather and spend more time thinking about others. Have some compassion. Empathise. Put yourself in the other persons’ shoes. Me included. More meditation this year.

Relationships..What is it you want?

~ Swisa A ~ Leave a comment

I finally finished watchng Season 4 of Gossip Girls and can’t help but wonder at its strange appeal.  It’s crazy, it’s a high school story, but somehow it’s fun to watch even if I’m way beyond my highschol years.  Perhaps it’s because it is somewhat reflective of life and it makes you think about the good and bad parts of life.  In a year of these characters’s life,  more events and scandals happen than would ever happen in my entire lifetime.  Yet, there are a thing or two one could contemplate about when thinking about these characters’s choice of boyfriends/girlfriends.  What sort of person are they looking for? What is it they want in life?  These are questions I think are relevant at any age.

Blair wants a fairy tale life with a fairy tale prince.  She finds one and they are soon engaged to be married, yet somehow she still feels for the adventurous and raw Chuck Bass.  She was almost going to give up the fairy tale for him, but then Chuck decided for her.  She’s going to marry prince charming.

I wonder if prince charming really exists.  I wonder if Blair has fully contemplated what she wants in life for all that glitters is not gold.   Perhaps what she wished for might not be what she needs.

In every relationship, in every life, I think it’s about learning to see the good and the bad in another person.    It involves a process of learning and understanding the other person and their needs.  It’s not only about their title and their name.  Once you understand them and see who they truly are, then you can decide if certain faults can be overlooked.  If you decide these faults are ones you don’t mind, then it work at it.   If you cannot accept them, move on.   Don’t wait for someone perfect for there’s no one perfect in this world. By definition, perfect does not exist.

Then there’s the issue of what is it you value in life?  What are the things you hold most important and dear?  What is it you want most in life?

Some want fame and money.  Some want someone to be by their side.  Some want honesty.   It depends.  There’s no right or wrong answer, each person has different needs and wants, you just have to find out what your need is and if they match.  It’s not easy.  Some spend a lifetime trying to find out what it is they want in life.  Some never find out.  Some lucky ones have.

I think these are things that Blair should think about. I know it’s a series, but maybe we’ll see them grow up next season.  Chuck already has somewhat, for now he knows it’s better to let someone go and let them be happy than hold on to them for himself.  If everyone knew what they want, imagine what a happy world this would be.  Less scandals, less heart break, less sadness.

Do you know? What do you think? Please share.