One Step at a time

Birthdays always make you feel a little bit older even though it’s something that happens every minute and every second. You get older with every increment of time.  Looking back on my almost four decades of existence, I realize now that many times I haven’t always been the most pleasant person or the nicest person.   I did things, said things or acted in ways I now regret, but can no longer take back.   Every experience a lesson learnt, every experience a mark on this journey called “life.” Luckily for us, life gives us opportunities to improve ourselves and hopefully become a better version of ourself.

A lot of times, one does things one later regrets as a result of not being “mindful” of what one is doing or of the possible consequences of one’s actions. Stress comes in all sorts of forms, from work, from emotions or maybe even from health issues. Oftentimes this causes us to lash out at innocent loved ones, friends, or the unfortunate person who happened to be standing in front of you. You see this all the time.

If you’re Buddhist, a way to limit this would be to be “mindful” of oneself and one’s thoughts. To be aware of each and every action, every passing thought and every breath you take. Easier said than done, yet like all things in life it takes practice and practice makes perfect. It will probably take me a lifetime, and even then I don’t know if I will have gotten rid of all the “demons” by the time I die. If I happen to die tomorrow, then I’d probably have to get rid of them in my next life (I suppose I do believe in reincarnation.)

Anyways, lets take it one step at a time. Get rid of those negative thoughts, negative energy and smile.  Be a better version of yourself.

Here’s a positive thought…catch it!

A strange kind of peace seems to have transcended since the New Years. Maybe it is because I am just getting a little older and a little calmer. Or maybe it’s because I have been enjoying the time truly having some much needed “me” time reading books and being alone with my thoughts. I think being able to just stay home with uninterrupted time for a few hours on a weekend is indeed a time to cherish and value. It allows one time to really prioritize and define what is indeed important in life.

This year I thought about why we all like Christmas and New Years so much. I always enjoyed it but never really gave much thought to why we can’t spend the rest of our year thinking it’s Christmas or New Years. Wouldn’t life be so much more pleasant?

For me, I discovered that Christmas and New Years are a good time for one to re-tune and get back in touch with those most dear to us. It’s when we often go out to eat with our friends, reunite with those we haven’t met for a long time and truly enjoy the company of others. It’s a time of positive thinking and positive energy. It’s when we have the chance to just sit back and enjoy a good conversation without feeling rushed. It’s a time of catch up and make amends. It’s a time when we get to ‘slow’ down a little.

It’s also when we gladly buy gifts for others and enjoy seeing others’ happiness upon recieving gifts. It’s when the focus shifts away from only thinking out “me” and towards “you.” It makes the mind clearer and lighter. What’s more important is that this positive energy is contagious. Positive energy given out will result in more positive energy generally, I find.

Why can’t we all be such pleasant beings the rest of the year? Let us remember this positive feeling. I want to, so am sending everyone positive thoughts tonight!! 🙂

Catch it before it falls!