A Heart of Gold: HBD dearest AA!

Good friends are rare. Good friends who remain good friends decades later are even rarer.  Tonight I dedicate to my post to a friend whose birthday was a little over a week ago (AA) . It’s a birthday I never forget and remember it every year for it falls close to Thanksgiving.  It’s good for it also reminds us to be thankful of our dearest friends.  Every year we have a “celebration” that has become tradition for our cosy group of three close friends.

Yes, I remember meeting her first year of college.  It came out in one way or another with us helping each other out, going for our first dim sum together, spending time together and yes we ‘clicked’ right away.  You know when you get along with someone, like you know when you don’t get along with someone.  We talked about everything. We talked about life, thoughts and everything that could be talked about.

What I remember most is how she is always so happy, genuine, and so determined in everything she does.  She knows exactly what she wants.  It’s a great character to have and one that to this days grows stronger and more beautiful like a tree in blossom.  The good thing about her is that she is always just herself, not boastful and down to earth even though she is a busy business woman with a growing company. I love that.

Looking back, memories of college days still remain clearly in my mind. I remember late night karaokes, make up sessions, weekends exploring the culinary side of philly, day trips to New York, homemade carbonara spaghettis and summers back home in Bangkok.   The list is endless…we had a good four years together and almost twelve years after our graduation we are still the same (though older and hopefully wiser)

I also remember getting on the path to health with my dear friend. She convinced me to sign up for my first ever Yoga class at college when it was just a “new” kind of exercise and not many had heart of it.  She convinced me to sign up for the “gym” and together we’d go for late night workouts.  9pm onwards were when we worked out.  What a wonderful influence.  It was the first time I actually thought about exercise and it made a world of a difference.  Thank you dear friend. 🙂  Today you are still the fitness guru and have continued practicing Yoga through all these years until you are finally a qualified instructor yourself.

I could go on and on for we have so much history, but for now all I want to say is “Thank you” dear friend for being such a great friend through all these years.  You were seriously my first “Thai” friend and one whose heart is genuinely genuine.  I never see you think any ill of anyone and you always make time for your friends.  Happy Birthday!  Wishing you all the happiness in this world dearest!

Relationships..What is it you want?

I finally finished watchng Season 4 of Gossip Girls and can’t help but wonder at its strange appeal.  It’s crazy, it’s a high school story, but somehow it’s fun to watch even if I’m way beyond my highschol years.  Perhaps it’s because it is somewhat reflective of life and it makes you think about the good and bad parts of life.  In a year of these characters’s life,  more events and scandals happen than would ever happen in my entire lifetime.  Yet, there are a thing or two one could contemplate about when thinking about these characters’s choice of boyfriends/girlfriends.  What sort of person are they looking for? What is it they want in life?  These are questions I think are relevant at any age.

Blair wants a fairy tale life with a fairy tale prince.  She finds one and they are soon engaged to be married, yet somehow she still feels for the adventurous and raw Chuck Bass.  She was almost going to give up the fairy tale for him, but then Chuck decided for her.  She’s going to marry prince charming.

I wonder if prince charming really exists.  I wonder if Blair has fully contemplated what she wants in life for all that glitters is not gold.   Perhaps what she wished for might not be what she needs.

In every relationship, in every life, I think it’s about learning to see the good and the bad in another person.    It involves a process of learning and understanding the other person and their needs.  It’s not only about their title and their name.  Once you understand them and see who they truly are, then you can decide if certain faults can be overlooked.  If you decide these faults are ones you don’t mind, then it work at it.   If you cannot accept them, move on.   Don’t wait for someone perfect for there’s no one perfect in this world. By definition, perfect does not exist.

Then there’s the issue of what is it you value in life?  What are the things you hold most important and dear?  What is it you want most in life?

Some want fame and money.  Some want someone to be by their side.  Some want honesty.   It depends.  There’s no right or wrong answer, each person has different needs and wants, you just have to find out what your need is and if they match.  It’s not easy.  Some spend a lifetime trying to find out what it is they want in life.  Some never find out.  Some lucky ones have.

I think these are things that Blair should think about. I know it’s a series, but maybe we’ll see them grow up next season.  Chuck already has somewhat, for now he knows it’s better to let someone go and let them be happy than hold on to them for himself.  If everyone knew what they want, imagine what a happy world this would be.  Less scandals, less heart break, less sadness.

Do you know? What do you think? Please share.