The other day I wrote about how important it was to fail before you can succeed. I realized I did not quite emphasize enough how important it is to actually LEARN from your mistakes. Learning is key. It is what you must do before you can succeed, for if you keep failing over and over and never learn from your mistakes, then that is a failure. That would not result in success.
As Einstein said something along the lines of ” If you keep running into a wall and expect the same result, then it is the same. However, if you keep running into a wall and expect different results, then it is a miracle.” Only a miracle can alter the outcome. No matter how many times you drop the egg to the ground without any protection, it will break. There will not be a moment that the egg will float on air. If you keep trying to solve a puzzle, and always use the same techniques to an unwanted outcome, it will not work.
The same happens in life. If you keep trying to talk to approach someone and it does not work, then reevaluate it. Perhaps other techniques will work. Learn from your past experiences.
If you keep getting your heartbroken because of A and B, then perhaps you need to re-evaluate your likes and dislikes. Perhaps certain kinds of behaviour are not what you want in your other half. Learn what caused the heartache. Learn about what effects it had on you. Learn what caused the disagreement. Learn how they can be avoided. Learn what needs to change.
It can be applied to everything in life even on simple things. Today I fell down flat on my face onto the pavement, wallet, phone, shoes flying in the air. Yes, I am bruised and scratched. What did I learn from it? To be more alert when I am in a rush. To slow down. Rushing causes me to not be aware of my surroundings as much. My mind is elsewhere. I also learnt to be careful when rounding corners and to watch out for potential threats like a sudden move backwards by someone and a potential hazard of feet
Simply LEARN from the experience, the mistake. That is the greatest lesson of all.